On Being a Satisfied, Small Blogger

I was listening to a podcast the other day over at How They Blog (hosted by my favorite “podcaster”, Kat Lee. Moms, check out her podcast at Inspired to Action!). Kat was interviewing Erin Odom¬†from The Humbled Homemaker blog and as I was listening, I was struck by the fact that I have been blogging for the same amount of time as Erin has~ 3 years. While she has had enormous success in the blogging world, I am still considered a “smaller” blogger. My stats are insignificant by Google’s standards.

It raised some questions for me. Have I not been working hard enough? Should I be promoting my work more? Do I need to network in a different way? These are the tempting questions that come into my head and heart when I start to compare.

I had to shut those thoughts down! Instead of trying to figure out an answer to all of those questions, I started to think about the path my life has taken over the past three years. In that time, our family has moved between states, my husband changed positions from associate pastor to senior pastor, I was blessed with a surprise pregnancy, we welcomed our fourth child into our family, and my Daddy passed away. I could write an entire book about each of those things, but suffice it to say, it has been a busy, blessed and bittersweet three years.

A part of me would love to be able to tell you that I have achieved my blogging goals, that my blog has grown by leaps and bounds and that I am able to generate an income from my blog, but this is not the case.

And so I am asking myself different questions instead. Am I putting effort into the things that God has for me right now? Do I believe that God is the one who determines my steps? Am I being faithful to the relationships God has brought into my life (friends, family, our congregation, fellow bloggers, mastermind groups, private facebook groups)?

The answer to all of these questions is YES which means I am a success!

As I have been listening to friends who have succeeded in the blogging/book writing world, I am hearing a similar theme. It is not all it is cracked up to be! Gone are the days of being able to interact with readers. Critics are as prevalent as fans. The book may be published, but the sales are low due to a lack of promotion.

I am fully convinced that my God knows what is best for me. And so, I will trust Him to continue to direct my paths and I will follow where He leads. In His time, in His plan!

not so small stories

Linking with one of the communities that is teaching me that it is not the size that matters, but the length of your post might!

 

11 Comments

  1. Kirsten Oliphant
    June 11, 2014

    I think that’s the hard thing in life (but also esp in blogging): comparison. I feel the same way sometimes when I see people who have been doing this a year and are making thousands of dollars a month and supporting their family on a BLOG. And the thing is that you can follow all the rules and suggestions, but there is not enough room for every blogger to become big and famous and make fistfuls of cash. It just doesn’t work like that. I def struggle with these thoughts sometimes, and I have a lot of drive to be successful, but what does that mean? And in what realm? So it’s good to stop and ask the questions and think not about what you COULD be achieving, but where God has you and wants you. Glad to know I’m not alone in struggling with this sometimes!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 12, 2014

      I think we might struggle, because the push to be a big blogger is so strong. I find that I am content until I hear it or read it again- find your tribe, build your platform, promote your stuff, build your blog, etc. It is okay to pursue these things, but I want to do it with an open hand. Because I truly want what God has for me!

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  2. amandaconquers
    June 11, 2014

    You know, as I have been allowing God to order my steps in my writing… to surrender really… I am finding just how much I love being a small blogger. And I see growth–almost like God’s way of saying, yes, daughter, keep at it–but it’s growth in depth rather than width. It has been such a blessing getting to know a handful of people really well. And the chance to encourage and point to Jesus and have people do it back, to see that everyone matters, every story matters. It’s humbling and it’s priceless. Anyways, I fear I am starting to ramble. :)
    I treasure you and this “small” blog Becky. And I do believe you are sowing seeds, ones that spring up life in the hearts of those you reach, and ones that in due season God might just spring up multiplied just for you. Do keep sowing!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 12, 2014

      Your words are so encouraging, Amanda! And yes- DEPTH! That is what I want too. Every once in awhile, it is good to be reminded of it and stay on target. So very thankful for you and others who are on this blogging journey and this seeking God journey with me!

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  3. Priscilla
    June 11, 2014

    I’ve lately been re-evaluating my life and priorities, and I discovered that a lot of what I was focused on wasn’t where my heart was. My blog is small, very small, and I wanted to grow my readership too, but I’m becoming more aware that my priorities are slightly different than maybe growing my blog. God has a plan and I’m trying to follow along in it. “hug” Your blog is lovely.

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    • Becky Daye
      June 12, 2014

      Thank you, Priscilla. And what a good thing it is to examine priorities and to understand that ours will look different from everyone else and that is exactly what God intends!

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  4. Rachel Haltiwanger
    June 12, 2014

    I think in blogging especially, it’s important to think and pray about what “success” looks like for you. If your goal is to foster community on your blog, that’s great! If it’s to reach people with a certain message, that’s great too. But I don’t think blogging success should ever be measured in page views or ad sales, because then it’s really easy to sell out to cheap ways of getting views like striking up petty arguments. I agree with Priscilla: your blog is lovely.

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    • Becky Daye
      June 12, 2014

      Ah, yes, Rachel! The petty arguments- so not my thing!! I’d rather have a handful of readers and be who God desires me to be, then to sell out and have numbers. I couldn’t agree more!
      And thank you!!!

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  5. Anita Ojeda
    June 13, 2014

    Ah, yes! It’s so hard to just hang on and let God do his thing. But such good things happen (the things he wants) when we do. Of course, it’s hard for ME to remember this ;). Thank you for the encouragement!

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  6. Katie
    June 14, 2014

    Yeah, I definitely can relate. It was helpful for me a few months ago to step back and think about what my goals really were. I realized that I had never wanted to be a big famous blogger, just wanted to share my story well with a few people. But I had gotten swept up in the twitterverse and checking my stats every day simply because it seemed like that’s what everyone else was doing. Personally, I have settled into the idea that depth of impact could be just as important as breadth. My blog has opened up some opportunities for me to re-connect with old friends, or connect with people who felt marginalized, or talk about faith with someone who is not a Christian. Those opportunities make it worthwhile for me. We all have different goals in our writing, and I so agree with Kiki that most of all we need to avoid comparison and figure out what WE want to be!

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    • Katie
      June 14, 2014

      And I love your questions about faithfulness and effort. Much more worthwhile :)

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