Five Minute Friday~ Hands

I walked into the nursing home by my sister’s side. She took me there to show me where our Daddy had been living for the past 10 months. When you live hundreds of miles away from your loved ones, you can accept that certain things need to happen. Logically. I knew my Daddy needed to be in a nursing home. But walking into the place that he had determined NEVER to live in, stabbed me in the heart.

We walked towards his room and a wall covered with beautiful black and white photos of hands captured my attention. And then…

…it took me a moment, but I realized that the picture in the middle, the centerpiece of the wall, was a picture of my Daddy’s hands. My sister was watching me intently and I willed myself not to cry. I haven’t always been able to contain myself since then.

His hands, beautifully displayed. His words, recorded for all time.

Head bowed and hands folded often as I prayed for my family and congregation that I pastored for over 30 years.

My Daddy had Alzheimers, yet somewhere in the midst of the fog in his brain, he was able to articulate his legacy. His life of prayer.

To his dying day, his hands folded in prayer were a gift to his family. No matter where I was in the world or what decisions I was making, I knew my Daddy was praying for me. Besides the actual physical loss, that slow, creeping knowledge that he would no longer be praying for me was the hardest part of the losing of him.

But his hands folded in prayer have also held the hands of every single one of his 11 grandchildren. His strong hands faithfully intertwined with one woman for over 40 years. His hands wiped away tears, disciplined out of love, held his girls close to his chest, clapped for every performance, always so proud of us.

And his hands faithfully wrote out over 30 years of sermons, forever recorded for us.

While I no longer get to hold the hands of my dearest Daddy, I am so blessed to see his legacy continue in the hearts of his family.

I wonder~ what story will MY hands tell? 

Writing through tears on this one and linking with the Five Minute Friday community on the prompt “Hands”.

27 Comments

  1. Gabriele
    June 6, 2014

    I loved your tribute to your dad. Thank-you for your sincere writing.

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      Thank you, Gabriele. I find that every time I write about him, it brings out the emotions in me. And it is a good place to write from!

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  2. Lori Harris
    June 6, 2014

    So beautiful Becky! Got me all teary-eyed this morning!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      Aw,thank you so much, sweet friend!!

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  3. Solveig Anderson
    June 6, 2014

    Beautiful tribute Becky! Was strongly reminded of this verse in Romans 6:13 “Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourselves completely to God, for you were dead, but now you have new life. So use your whole body as an instrument to do what is right for the glory of God.” – Now it’s our turn to offer up our bodies as instruments and to fold our hands… what a great example your Dad was and an encouragement to live it for you and everybody who knew him! He is still praying and shouting encouragements from the cloud of witnesses that invisibly surrounds you – I’m convinced of that!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      I LOVE how you encourage me back with your comments, Solveig! With all of the talk of instruments going on in our home, this was a sweet reminder. I pray that I would glorify God with the instrument he has given me!

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  4. Leah Loy
    June 6, 2014

    Oh my word girl!!!! Your story painted such a beautiful picture in my mind as I read it. What a powerful testimony!! Your openness through this post really shows your heart! Made me cry. Thank you for being so transparent. Love you girl!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      A life of prayer really IS so powerful. The impact goes on for generations! Thanks for reading my words and for loving me. So thankful for you, Leah!

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  5. Kathi
    June 6, 2014

    Oh my word, friend! Your writing is beautiful!! And this. This was amazing! So touching. Thank you for sharing your heart. Much love!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      You always know how to encourage me. Thank you, dear one!

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  6. Traci Michele
    June 6, 2014

    Beautiful friend! <3 Traci Michele

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      Thank you, Traci. Grateful for your presence in my life!

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  7. Jennifer Peterson
    June 6, 2014

    Beautiful Becky! Xoxoxo

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      Thank you, Jenn! So much love!

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  8. Amy Reasoner
    June 6, 2014

    This is beautiful, Becky. Just beautiful.

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      You bless me with your words, Amy. Thank you!

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  9. ~Karrilee~
    June 6, 2014

    This is such an honoring post – and such an honor to read your heart and to love on your Daddy with you just a little bit today! Your hands are telling an amazing story, my friend!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 6, 2014

      What joy it brings me to know that I am honoring my father AND my Father! Thank you as there really is no greater joy!

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  10. M and A's Mama
    June 6, 2014

    What a beautiful tribute! And what a beautiful picture. I have always loved looking at hands – I find them fascinating. Thank you for sharing!

    M and A’s Mama from FMF

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    • Becky Daye
      June 10, 2014

      Thank you!The hand pictures were so lovely and they are incredibly special to me!

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  11. Gina Wamsley
    June 7, 2014

    Hi, Becky. I’m friends with your sister, Janey. (love her!) What a sweet tribute to your father. What a reminder of how important it is to pray for our children, to let them know we pray for them, and that they SEE and HEAR us pray for them. What a legacy he left. What a great dad! Thanks for sharing!

    Blessings to you,
    Gina

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    • Becky Daye
      June 10, 2014

      Gina,
      Thank you so much! I love my sweet sister too. And knowing her gives you a glimpse into how amazing our Daddy was. He set an incredible example for us and I hope and pray that I will leave the same kind of legacy for my little ones!
      Honored to have you visit here!
      Becky

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  12. Mel
    June 7, 2014

    What beautiful words and memories, my friend…and what an incredible legacy he left behind. Thank you for sharing with us. :) (((hugs)))

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    • Becky Daye
      June 10, 2014

      Incredible legacy indeed! Thank you, Mel!!!

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  13. Mary Geisen
    June 7, 2014

    Your daddy would be so proud of you! Your story telling touched my heart and blessed me greatly. I do believe that our hands tell a story because they are so expressive! God loves how you honored Him and your dad today. Blessings!

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    • Becky Daye
      June 10, 2014

      Oh, what sweet words you have extended to me here. Thank you!!

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  14. nellers
    June 12, 2014

    What a beautiful story your dad’s hands have told and what a touching tribute this is to him.

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